你的內心對話是否混亂？

Have you ever tuned out of a conversation because you’re more involved in the discussion going on in your head? Did you find yourself getting irritated at the person droning on because it’s distracting you from that argument raging within you?

You’re not alone in feeling as though your inner dialogue is chaotic. Instead of constantly trying to drown things out, you find yourself turning everything down instead. All you want is to indulge those chaotic thoughts. You convince yourself that by arguing it out you’ll come to a solution, instead you find yourself at an impasse.

內心之聲

The reality of the matter is the majority of people are fueled by the voice in their head. That nonstop stream of thoughts. It’s worth noting that the most negative thoughts seem to come through loud and clear, while the positive ones whisper too quietly for you to make them out.

Often, that inner dialogue is humiliating, it’s panic-ridden and defeatist. It wants to tear you down, drag you out, and leave you to suffer. It’s tumultuous, creating chaos in your mind. That inner dialogue is driving your life and where do you think you’re going if you’re being driven by chaos and negativity? It’s tough, but the only way to pull through it is to stay calm and override the chaos.

Where does this voice come from? It’s built from birth. You absorb the tones of a teacher, the exasperated chiding from an angry parent or the put-downs of an unkind elder sibling. All of these external influences shape your inner dialogue. Unfortunately, we often absorb the negativity and allow it to take a prominent position, completely drowning out any positive voices trying to whisper in our ears. This is especially true when it’s an authority figure who repeats this message and it gets lodged in your inner dialogue.

反對這種混亂的內心對話的唯一方法，就是改變你的思考方式。這是一項需要有深思熟慮的積極行動。如果你有意願地改變自己的思考方式和對待自己的方式，你會發現自己的自信心、自尊心和自重都會有所提升。你的內心對話可以提升你，也可以摧毀你。

改變對話方式

It’s a difficult thing to do, to flip the script. It’s easier to fall back on the negative voice of your parent berating you for something when you were seven than it is to nurture the positive voice of that same parent praising you for something that same day. The brutish voices rise above the chaos and speak the loudest. The kind tone and words fade into the background.

你的內心對話是否混亂？

What causes chaotic inner dialogue? In addition to the past shaping it, it is often driven by stress. It manifests in chaotic, bullying inner dialogue. There is this sense of injustice we feel, for whatever reason, and it’s difficult to overcome that when the blows keep coming.

So, how can you tell whether your inner dialogue is truly chaotic? A good test would be to look at your life. Is it chaotic? Is it making you miserable? Do you feel unhappy with your actions, thoughts, words, and choices? If so, then there’s a good chance your inner dialogue is chaotic. If you shush people to retreat to the arguments in your head, if you struggle to focus on tasks because those voices are too loud… then, your inner dialogue is chaotic.

It doesn’t have to be. It’s possible to change your inner dialogue to a more positive tone. It takes a lot of practice and you will need to consistently correct it with positive thoughts and affirmations. You should also enlist some stress management techniques such as breathing and exercise  to help calm your emotions to further control your inner dialogue.